Saturday, April 6, 2013

F is for…Fear

By Shelly Burke

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”  2 Tim. 1:7

What are you afraid of today?

Perhaps your financial situation is not stable or you have overwhelming debt or are in danger of losing your job.

Maybe you’re worried about test results, or a family member or friend suffering from a disease or illness.

Are you apprehensive about a relationship that is going through a hard time? Maybe a child is making bad decisions in his or her life and you fear the consequences, or your marriage is rocky with the future uncertain.

It is normal to have a healthy fear of things that could, realistically, happen. In 2 Timothy 1:7 Paul writes to Timothy from a Roman prison; Timothy could be persecuted and  imprisoned as well, for his preaching. But God does not want us to live with a spirit of fear; fear is not to dominate our emotions.

Paul says that God gave us a spirit…of “power and love and self-control.”       

We are not powerless in the face of fear; we have power in our faith, in prayer, and in action appropriate to the situation. Remember, “I can do all things through Him Who strengthens me.” (Phil. 4:13). We cannot do it through our own power, but through the power the Lord gives us.

We are to have a spirit of love. We can love the person who has done wrong; we can ask the Lord to show us how to do so through His love for us.

And we are to have self-control. Even when we cannot control a situation, we can control how we react to it. Rather than lose control or react in anger, we can count to 10, or not say a word. Rather than withdraw in fear, we can reach out to Christian friends and ask for prayer. Rather than sit helplessly we can open our Bibles and read God’s word, and ask Him to take away our fear.

You are not alone in facing your fears. We are never, ever alone, even during the times that we are the most afraid. God says, “For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; It is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the One Who helps you.” Isaiah 41:13

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Friday, April 5, 2013


E is for…Encouragement
by Shelly Burke

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”  1 Thess. 5:11

One thing I’ve realized as I’ve gotten older (more “mature”) is that even the most confident-appearing, fashionably dressed, perfect-hair-day-every-day person is insecure in some way.

The person who (to my eyes) gives brilliant answers in Bible class worries that people will think she’s “dumb” or “talks too much.”

The member of the choir who sings beautifully? Fears that others will think she is “showing off”.

And the “everyday” people? The mom who takes her kids to church thinks her kids are “too loud” during the sermon.

The quiet elderly man in Bible Class? Terrified to ask a question (which happens to be a question I’ve thought about for years).

Everyone—even the most confident-appearing people—needs and appreciates encouragement.  1 Thessalonians 5:11 instructs the Thessalonians, and by extension, us, to encourage each other “just as you are doing.” Paul doesn’t provide a list of things the people had been doing, so I think they were simple, every day things—probably things you have been doing or can easily start doing, in order to “encourage and build one another up.”

     *Tell the harried mom whose kids kept her busy during church, “I’m so glad you’re here! I know it’s a challenge, but it’s worth it to get your kids to know God.”

     *Thank the pastor, choir director, soloist, education director, organist, secretary, Bible Study leader, your co-workers or boss, for what they do. So often we are touched and encouraged by what they do…but we forget that they need encouragement too.

     *Ask someone you know is going through a difficult time, “How are things going?” The person may answer with just a few words—or you might hear a detailed accounting of the last few days. Either way, you’ve showed that you care. You don’t have to have the “right” words—just listen and, if appropriate, tell her you are praying for her.

     *Give a hug “just because.”
    
     *Text a Bible verse to your kids or a friend facing a difficulty.

     *Pray…for your family, for friends, for acquaintances if you know they are facing a tough decision or hard time. You do not have to know the details; ask God to bless the person and care for and provide for him or her as the person needs. God knows the details!

     *Send someone a card of encouragement and include a Bible verse that is specific to his or her situation.
  
     *Surprise a friend or acquaintance—with a flower, treat, or something they’ve mentioned needing or wanting, like a book, a CD, or scented lotion.

     *Give anonymously or to a stranger. Pay for the purchase of the car behind you in the fast-food drive through. Ask the cashier to apply the change from your purchase, to that of the person behind you in the check-out line. Wish the cashier a nice day. Smile at the person who looks lonely; take a few minutes to chat about the weather or what you’re making for supper.

A wonderful "side effect" of encouraging others is that you will immediately feel better about yourself and your life. God Himself encourages us through His Word and the people He puts in our lives. Share His love and encouragement by passing on that love and encouragement to those whose lives you touch.

Lord, thank You for encouraging me through Your word. Please, help me to show your love by encouraging and lifting others up. Amen. 

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D is for…Discernment


By Shelly Burke

Life offers us many choices, every day.

Many, if not most decisions don’t matter much more than a few moments—what to prepare for supper, what to wear, evening plans.

Some choices have short-term or minimal consequences; where to vacation, whether to attend an event.  

Some, decisions, however, have much larger and longer-term consequences. Whether or not to marry. What career or job to seek. How to react to a child’s continued negative behavior. Whether or not to continue a friendship with someone who makes negative choices. Whether or not to accept a new job that requires relocation across the country. Whether or not to continue a marriage. How much debt to obtain.

The easy decisions are, well, just that. Easy. Trying a new recipe could result in a stomach ache but probably nothing longer-lasting. A vacation to a resort that features a tiny, algae-filled pool and only sandwiches at the “gourmet buffet” will probably result in nothing more than bad memories—or a few good laughs and the resolution never to go back there!

But those big, sometimes life-changing decisions require discernment, which can be described as “the process of determining God’s will in a situation or for your life.” How can we discern God’s will?  
                                                                                                                                                                 
Begin with prayer. Tell the Lord about the decision you face and your options. Ask Him to help you discern the path you should take. Pray that He will lead you to make a decision that is pleasing to Him. Listen for His still, small voice. You might not receive a clear answer right away. Continue to pray, and  pay attention to people who cross your path, Bible verses that come to mind, and more information you might find regarding the decision.

Next go to The Book which offers guidance to making all of the decisions you will face.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2

We must remember that no matter what “the world” says is acceptable, as Christians we test our options against God’s Word. In doing so we can quickly discern that working in an abortion clinic is not in line with His Word. Helping someone steal, even in extreme circumstances, is not obeying Him. Despite what “the world” says, we can quickly discern from His Word that homosexuality is wrong (Romans 1:26-29, 1 Corinthians 6:9, 1 Timothy 1:8-10).

“Walk as children of light and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:10

How do we walk as “children of light”? By reading God’s Word and determining what is “pleasing to the Lord.” He gives us many guidelines throughout His Word, perhaps most notably the Ten Commandments. We can build our character by seeking to develop the “fruits of the spirit” (Galatians 5:22-23). Throughout His word we can learn from the mistakes people made during Bible times, and we can find principles to follow.

Proverbs 15:22 tells us, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” Obviously, if you seek enough counselors you will get the answer you want to hear, so be sure to seek counsel from people you trust to tell you the truth, God’s truth.

You may be surprised at path the Lord puts you on or asks you to take but by seeking His will and using discernment, you can be sure that you are on the right path. 

Lord, when I face decisions, please help me to use Your word, listen for Your voice and seek wise counsel so that I may discern the choice that pleases You. Amen. 

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

A to Z Blogging Challenge: C is for Courage

By Shelly Burke

After the death of Moses, the servant of the Lord, the Lord said to Joshua…”Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you, wherever you go.” Joshua 1:1, 9

Courage is a requirement for life today, just as it was approximately 3400 years ago when these words were written.

In these verses the Lord was talking to Joshua. Moses, the great leader, had just died, after leading the Israelites out of Egypt and in the wilderness for 40 years. Now Joshua was tasked with not only leading the Israelites into the promised  land but also conquering the people who were already there. The task was daunting, to say the least.

What are you facing today, that demands your courage? Troubles with a child? The break-up of a marriage? Single parenting?  Illness of a friend or family member—or perhaps yourself? End-of-life decisions? Unexpected or sudden life changes? Financial challenges?

God gave Joshua a huge task, but He also gave him directions.

     *”Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or the left…you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it.” .

   *”Do not be frightened and do not be dismayed…”
                                                                                
We can follow the same directions God gave Joshua—following His word. Meditating on it day and night. Being careful to do what we read in His word. (Thankfully the death and resurrection of Jesus released us from having to follow all of the laws of the OT, but the principles of the Ten Commandments in the Old Testament still apply today.)

He also gave Joshua and the Israelites promises:

     *”Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you.” Joshua 1:5b
     *”…the Lord your God is with you, wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9b

And we can also claim these promises as well. We know that through whatever we face, God will be with us, wherever we go. He will never leave us or forsake us. We can take courage in knowing that through the Lord, through His Word, and His promises, we can face our future with courage because we will never be alone.

Lord, I thank you for your guidance, and for your promises. With them I need never fear, as I know that You will guide me and that I will never be alone. Amen. 

Tuesday, April 2, 2013


B is for…Be Still
by Shelly Burke, Editor

“Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

From the time I get up in the morning until the time I go to bed at night, I’m moving. Maybe not very fast or very far, but I try to be productive. I’d imagine you do the same!

But God tells us in this passage that to know Him, we must “be still.”

Unless we concentrate on Him, we cannot know Him.

God wants us to stop our multitasking, stop our scurrying and errands, stop checking FaceBook and texting, stop working on our long to-do list and…be still.

When we’re mentally making our to-do list during Bible study time…when we’re planning supper during prayer time…when we’re anticipating the “big game” that afternoon, during church, we’re not being still, and not concentrating on Him.

I think most of us are all about multi-tasking, but research is finding that when  a person multi-tasks, he or she is actually  less efficient at both tasks, than when concentrating on the tasks individually.

It seems that God really knew—thousands of years ago, when this Psalm was recorded-- what He was talking about when he said, “Be still.”

How can you “be still” during your time with God when you’re used to non-stop activity from the time you get up to the time you go to bed at night?

     *First of all, make time with Him a priority. Designate a time when you’re less likely to be interrupted; early in the morning, right after the kids leave for school, or late at night, just before you go to sleep.
     *When it’s your personal Bible study or prayer time, read this verse to focus your thoughts: “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my rock and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
     *Get rid of distractions—turn off the TV, your cell phone, and anything else that will tempt your thoughts away from the Lord.
     *Practice focusing your mind and shutting out distractions. When you notice your mind wandering, consciously bring your focus back to what you’re reading, or prayer.
     *If random thoughts of groceries you need, that bill that hasn’t been paid, or that phone call you need to make tend to interrupt your concentration, keep a pad of paper or sticky notes near where you’re studying. That way you can jot it down and push it out of your mind, knowing you don’t have to try to remember it.

The devil does not want us to strengthen our spiritual life, and he will do whatever he can to distract you. But with practice, you’ll become better at being still and knowing God. Don’t give up—the time you spend getting to know Him will pay off in a closer relationship with Him.

Dear Lord, please help me today to concentrate on my relationship with You. Help me to be still, that I can know You. Amen.

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Monday, April 1, 2013

"Stepping Out: To a life on the edge"

by Deb Burma


(Editor's note: I am so happy to be able to print this excerpt from my good friend Deb Burma's just released book, Stepping Out: To a Life on the Edge," based on her keynote speech at the 2011 National LWML Convention. If you would like to order the book, go to Concordia Publishing House, "Stepping Out: To a Life on the Edge"  If you would like to meet Deb Burma and get a personally autographed copy of "Stepping Out", plan to attend the book signing event at Peace Lutheran Church, 2720 28th St., Columbus, NE, on April 14th, from 2:00PM - 4:00 PM. Deb will give a special "stepping out" message (2:00-2:30) and we'll have refreshments and the book signing from 2:30-4:00PM. Books will be available at the special price of $12 for this event only!  
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Excerpted from the chapter, “Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone to a Life Filled with New Opportunities”

Fishermen Fishing for Men

Theirs was a lowly occupation, a simple trade. Day after day, they boarded their boats, dragging large fishing nets with them, anticipating their next catch. This day was probably like most. Standing near the shore, preparing their nets, they were probably talking about the weather. Not just idle chit-chat, but important dialog concerning the next catch and the day’s work. Were the skies stormy or clear? Was the water choppy or calm?

Likely, their trade had been handed down from generation to generation. The family business; a way of life. Predictable. Comfortable. Common. They certainly were not nobility, and their lives were far from luxurious, but their simple life was a constant. That is, until one memorable day when Jesus stepped into their world. With perfect purpose and specific intent in every step, Jesus walked along their little portion of the shore of the Sea of Galilee. And as He walked, He called out first to Simon (Peter) and Andrew, “Follow me, and I will make you become fishers of men.” (Mark 1:17)

Can you picture these fishermen at that moment? Did they stare at each other incredulously, wondering what Jesus’ words meant? With this simple statement, Jesus rocked their world, asking these fishermen to step out of their boats, out of the world they knew, where they fished for fish. And as He did, He asked them to step into the great unknown, where they would fish for people. Did they hesitate? Scripture doesn’t tell us that they did. Mark records that they obeyed; that they abandoned their work and took off after Jesus. The very next verse says, “Immediately [no hesitation!] they left their nets and followed Him” (vs. 1:18). Apparently, James and John were down the shore just a bit, fishing with their father, Zebedee. Again, Jesus called out. Again, there was no hesitation. They left their father, the boat, and the family business. They dropped everything to follow Him.

I am afraid that I would have hesitated. I think I would have asked for clarification, details, an agenda. That is so like me. “Okay, Jesus, but I would like to know a few things first. What is the plan, and where are we going? I’m not sure I am comfortable stepping away from my nets and out into the unknown. And just what do you mean by ‘fishers of men’ anyway? How will this work, exactly?”

These soon-to-be disciples were simply obedient to His call. Even when that meant leaving everything that was comfortable and common to them, even when that meant stepping away from their livelihood and tradition and family. The fact that Jesus chose them at all is amazing in itself. Hardly theologians, not even close to being experts in the Jewish law, they were simple men of trade. And yet He did choose them.

Jesus Steps In

Today, He chooses you and me right where we are. Jesus steps in and says, “Follow me…” He calls us to step out of our collective comfort zones to go where He leads, to be committed – as the first disciples were – to follow Him above all things. While we may remain businesswomen, teachers, homemakers, wives, mothers, and more, we are Christ-followers first.

In our sin, however, some days we hesitate; other days we simply fail to follow altogether. We are not committed. We fail to place Him first. We shrink back and huddle into our nice little comfort zones, content to stay just where we are. But God doesn’t let us stay there, huddled in our zone. He knows we cannot step out on our own, so He comes to us in the midst of our sin.

Through Christ, God forgives us for our hesitation and our failure to follow. He fills us with the Holy Spirit, enabling and empowering us to step out. Because the Holy Spirit has gifted us with faith, we can follow the Lord just as the disciples did – without hesitation, clinging to His every Word, going where He leads, serving each person He places in our path, trying something new, exploring a gift or talent, and reaching out in His name.

Stepping out of our comfort zone and following our Savior to a life on the edge may not require a physical or geographical move on our part. It may not require a step out of America and onto foreign soil. It may not even mean taking a step outside of our community. Maybe our occupations stay the same. Maybe our neighborhoods are the same. And maybe our church home is, too. But our purpose, as Christ reveals it to us with increasing clarity, changes us and permeates every part of our lives. We step out for Him in our workplaces; we courageously cast nets in our neighborhoods; we fish for men and women and children who have yet to meet the Savior; we fish for those who desperately need to know Him and what He has done for them.

The message of grace and salvation Christ shared with His disciples was the same message He led them to share with the world. The disciples’ journey was not an easy one. Each step took them to new people and to different challenges, through many obstacles and into frequent persecution.

Their journey is ours. Oh, sure, today it looks different. The people are different. But challenges are not so different. We also face obstacles in the form of resistance and denial; we may even be persecuted. And Christ’s message of grace and salvation is the very same. In our homes, communities, and places of work, whether we remain in familiar surroundings or make a major move, we serve others and give the Good News of our Savior to them. We may not be theologians or degreed Bible scholars. But simple people like you and me can be emboldened by the Holy Spirit to simply share our faith. And we do so courageously by God’s grace, even when that means overcoming obstacles that may threaten our ability to reach out with His saving love. We are fishers of men!

Stepping out of our comfort zone means yielding our life to Him. It means putting our life in His hands and trusting Him to provide and protect, even as He leads us into uncharted territory. On the back end of the diving board, it seems more comfortable to attempt to retain complete control over our lives (as if that were possible). But out there on the edge, it is incredibly freeing to just let go and let the Lord take over. He gave up His life for us. In response, we can drop everything to place Him first and follow Him. And we pray that others might see our lives yielded to Christ and be drawn to Him as a result.
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A is for...Anxieties


By Shelly Burke

“Casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:1
                                    
What are you anxious about today?
·              Finances?
·              A troubled relationship with your spouse or child?
·              Your job?
·              World events that seem to be spiraling out of control?
·              Test results (whether a test as part of a class, or a medical test)?
·              The economy?
                                                      ·              Your future?

Our day-to-day lives are packed with potentially anxiety-producing events and happenings. If we start looking into the future, with the uncertainty of world events—unrest in the Middle East, financial crises in Europe, massacres in Africa—we could, literally, worry ourselves sick.

Anxiety can cause:
·              Sleepless nights
·              Eating too much or too little
·              Inertia—the inability to move or get necessary tasks completed

More important than physical reactions, however, excessive anxiety can cause you to miss:
·              A beautiful sunset
·              A quiet moment with your spouse
·              A hug from your kids
·              A walk on a balmy spring day
·              The endless blessing God gives us every day of our lives!

God does not want us to be anxious; he wants us to enjoy our lives!

“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.” Proverbs 12:25

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6

So what can you do to combat the anxiety in your life?
·              Read a “Good Word”—His word! Copy verses about anxiety and worry onto notecards, and put those cards where you’ll see them every day—the mirror in your bathroom or on your refrigerator.
·              Pray! Tell God your anxieties (or write them down) and ask Him to take them away. Then…let them go. Shred the piece of paper, if you wrote them down…God has them now.
·              Give thanks! When you start listing the things you have to be thankful for, you’ll immediately see how God is taking care of you and your family.
·              Do something for someone else; it will take your focus off of your worries  and is guaranteed to cheer you up.

Lord, thank You for all the blessings you have given me. I know that You are taking care of me; please take away my anxieties so I can enjoy You and the blessings of every day. Amen.
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