Friday, April 10, 2015

A to Z Blogging..."I is for..."

From the series "Words Matter"
by Shelly Burke, RN, Author, and Publisher, Nebraska Family Times

Whether it’s a group or organization you belong to, a hobby you enjoy, or something you believe in, it is hurtful (and annoying!) when someone criticizes, laughs at, or insults something important to you. Use these responses to express your feelings. 

What to Say

  • “That might be the case in another group, but it is not true of our group!”
  • “Why do you feel that way about my hobby?”
  • “What makes you say that?” (perhaps you can correct the person’s misperceptions). 
  • “That’s a very hurtful thing to say about something that is so important to me.”

What Not to Say

  • “You don’t know what you’re talking about.” 
  • “You’re pretty dumb if you don’t want to be part of my group.”

What to Do

  • Ask the person why she said what she did; maybe she heard
    false information, or if she’s criticizing a group, perhaps she had a bad experience with the group. If this is the case, politely correct the misconceptions. 
  • Invite the person to a meeting of your group. 
  • Educate the person about your hobby. 
  • Be a positive example of your group. 
  • Give a personal account of your own experience to show why it is important/significant to you.

Don’t . . . 

  • . . . try to convince someone you are correct by over-reacting or returning an insult.

How do you reply when someone insults you? 
This post is an excerpt from “What Should I Say? The Right (and Wrong!) Words and Deeds for Life’s Sticky, Tricky Uncomfortable Situations”
by Shelly Burke, RN. Coming soon!
 Download “What Should I Say” and be prepared for any of life’s sticky, tricky uncomfortable situations!
The mission of the “Nebraska Family Times” is to “inspire, encourage and motivate you on your Christian walk.” To receive local, state and national news from a Christian point of view, as well as devotions, Bible Study and articles about all aspects of Christian life, in your mailbox every month, subscribe for only $20 for 12 issues! Click “Subscribe” on the sidebar or send your address and payment to Nebraska Family Times, 209 27th St. Apt. #13, Columbus, NE 68601.
I am also taking the Blogging A to Z Challenge at Home is Where the Mom Is; A Christian Mom's Guide,
where the theme is “Lifehacks for Christian Moms.”


  1. Great advice. If someone insults me I just try to change the subject and try to hold my temper.
    I've always thought: If you can't say something nice to somebody, don't say anything at all.
    I stopped by from the A to Z Challenge. Have a lovely weekend.

  2. I tend to avoid conflict--so I just stew inwardly--never a good thing, because it always comes out in the end, and usually not in a constructive way.

  3. Great post and the tips provided, sound great. You going to need the Holy Spirit to guide you in your process, because there will be a time as humans that we will offend the offensive.


Thank you for your comments!