...Expressing your Personal Beliefs and Choices
From the Series "Words Matter"
by Shelly Burke, RN, Author, and Publisher of the Nebraska Family Times newspaper
Every person and family is unique in regards to its beliefs and practices of day-to-day life. What people eat, wear, do in their free time, how late the kids stay up, if they recycle, how much TV they watch, whether they send their kids to public, private, parochial school or home school, if they do or don’t drink alcohol or smoke, and countless other details, make every family distinctive.
For the most part, these personal quirks and details of family life are unnoticed by others, or are accepted as just part of that family’s lifestyle. Occasionally you might be asked about, or even challenged on, details of your lifestyle. Here are a few non-confrontational replies.
What to Say
What Not to Say:
What to Do
Don’t . . .
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From the Series "Words Matter"
by Shelly Burke, RN, Author, and Publisher of the Nebraska Family Times newspaper
For the most part, these personal quirks and details of family life are unnoticed by others, or are accepted as just part of that family’s lifestyle. Occasionally you might be asked about, or even challenged on, details of your lifestyle. Here are a few non-confrontational replies.
What to Say
- “I don’t eat sugary snacks. I don’t feel good after eating them, so I avoid them.”
- “We don’t like to expose our kids to violence or sexually explicit movies, so we don’t watch them.”
- “We’ve decided that our kids won’t watch TV during the day.”
- “I just don’t eat eggs.”
- “We've done the research and decided to keep meat in our diet.”
- “I recycle whenever I can.”
- “I don’t recycle because there are no collection centers near here.”
- “For our kids, private/parochial/public/home school is the best option for their education.”
- “That’s just one of my quirks.”
- “It’s part of my lifestyle to do it that way.”
What Not to Say:- “If you were responsible, you’d do what I do.” (Being judgmental or harsh won’t encourage anyone to follow your lifestyle.)
- “You really should be responsible and . . . “
- “You should never/always. . . “
What to Do
- Be matter-of-fact about your beliefs and practices.
- Say these things in a matter-of-fact, non-judgmental manner. You don’t have to give detailed reasons for your beliefs (you don‘t have to give any reasons at all!).
- If you want to educate others on aspects of your lifestyle, use solid information, not scare tactics.
Don’t . . .
- . . . be in-your-face or pushy about your beliefs and practices.
- . . . be judgmental about others’ practices or habits; talk with them politely and in private if you have concerns.
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This post is an excerpt from “What
Should I Say? The Right (and Wrong!) Words and Deeds for Life’s Sticky, Tricky
Uncomfortable Situations”
by Shelly Burke, RN.
Coming soon! Download “What
Should I Say” and be prepared for any of life’s sticky, tricky uncomfortable
situations!
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